Low Libido: What Your Sex Drive is Saying About Your Hormones
A healthy sex drive is a marker of vitality and overall health. So if your libido is low, that could be an indication that something is going on with your mental or physical health, most often linked to a hormonal imbalance. Of curse low libido is also liked to intimacy, safety and connection inside relationships and even one’s own connection to pleasure.
Despite how common low libido and hormone imbalances are, people still feel pretty embarrassed about it and often search for answers in the dark. But there is no shame in your low sex drive game!
REASONS FOR LOW LIBIDO CAN BE EMOTIONAL, PSYCHOLOGICAL, OR CIRCUMSTANTIAL
Relationship issues—feeling emotionally disconnected from your partner
History of sexual abuse
Cultural beliefs around women’s bodies and shame
Hormone imbalances
The term “guilty pleasure” says it all; if we experience ANY pleasure with our female bodies (food, sex, physical touch, fun, relaxation), then that necessitates feelings of guilt. And even though we can mentally reject those old paradigms as we shift into a new one, when ideologies are so deeply baked into us, we can have unconscious beliefs that guide our decisions and even our physical bodies. Remember that most of what we do is driven by the subconscious. So even though we might not be able to articulate in our brains “I feel guilty when I receive pleasure or I feel unworthy of receiving pleasure”, the subconscious thoughts are really running the show and driving behavior.
In the book Feminine Genius, author Liyana Silver talks about the unconscious beliefs of women:
“NEEDS MAKE YOU WEAK. GET RID OF ALL NEEDS. ASK FOR NOTHING; TAKE NOTHING. GET BUSY GIVING AND DOING—BUT MAKE SURE YOU DO IT ALL BY YOURSELF. I CAN’T NEED MUCH BECAUSE I DON’T DESERVE MUCH. I AM A MISTAKE. I AM NOT WANTED. I DON’T DESERVE TO BE HERE. I HAVE TO EARN MY EXISTENCE.”
How many can relate? How many women at the deepest core of their being feel this way?
And this can extend to so many aspects of our being—how we feed ourselves, how we treat ourselves, how we speak to ourselves, how we let others treat us and speak to us, with seeking pleasure, with our sex lives.
I speak often about how modern medicine is failing women. But these old, ingrained beliefs are, too.
When we rob ourselves of pleasure, it is actually detrimental to our health.
SEX IS A HEALTH-SUPPORTING ACTIVITY.
Intimacy, orgasm and pleasurable touch (include self-touch) releases a hormone called oxytocin, often referred to as our “bliss hormone”. Oxytocin has a number of effects on our bodies, including:
Promotes relaxation
Can reduces anxiety and stress
Reduces pain - natural analgesic
Naturally suppresses appetite
Buffers against harmful effects of high cortisol
Improves the immune system (especially helpful for those of us with autoimmune disease)
Increases T regulatory cells
Increases muscle health and repair in elderly
Promoting oxytocin is beneficial for our emotional and physical health.
Sex and pleasure is beneficial for our emotional and physical health.
Don’t overlook these old, deep belief patterns. They could be contributing to your low libido. But, if you normally have a robust and healthy sex drive and all of a sudden that turns on a dime, that could be an indication there was a hormonal shift.
Let’s look at some of the hormonal causes of low libido.
STRESS & ADRENAL EXHAUSTION
The idea that we have to be highly productive in order to feel worthy keeps us in overdrive. Perfectionism keeps us in overdrive. Trying to perform well, be of service and look good while doing it puts us into overdrive. I call it the Modern American Woman Syndrome. It is SO common and I see it with SO many of my clients.
The Soulful Reset, my hormone balancing program, goes WAY in depth into all of this, but here’s a snapshot of how this impacts us physiologically:
HPA axis (hypothalamus pituitary adrenal axis) is command control for your stress response. It’s supposed to turn on during acute stress—this is our fight or flight response—and then turn off when the acute stress is over, and put us into our parasympathetic mode, which is the regulatory state for our body and our hormones.
Unfortunately in modern day, it’s rarely if ever turned off. So we’re constantly stimulating stress hormone production, and the more we’re doing that, the less we’re focused on other hormones, like thyroid and sex hormones.
AS BIOLOGICAL BEINGS, OUR TWO MAIN GOALS ARE SURVIVAL AND REPRODUCTION, BUT WE ALWAYS PRIORITIZE SURVIVAL OVER REPRODUCTION.
So issues at the level of the HPA axis—often called adrenal fatigue—can lead to low libido in and of itself, as well as hormonal imbalance. If your body thinks it’s in a life or death situation, it won’t stimulate you to get all randy to go reproduce. Your body is smart. It’s not going to try to bring children into a perceived unsafe environment. This is why stress and adrenal issues are a leading contributor to infertility.
LOW PROGESTERONE
PROGESTERONE IS A FEMALE SEX HORMONE THAT PREPARES THE UTERUS FOR PREGNANCY. IT’S MADE IN THE OVARIES PRE-MENOPAUSE AND IN THE ADRENALS POST-MENOPAUSE.
Symptoms of low progesterone:
Low sex drive
Anxiety, irritability, mood changes
Irregular menstruation, short cycles or mid-cycle spotting
Hair loss
Cramps
Acne
Mood swings
Insomnia or sleep disturbance
Breast tenderness
Headaches and migraines
Weight gain
CAUSES OF LOW PROGESTERONE
Gut infections, Dysbiosis or Candida
Chronic stress and HPA dysregulation
Low cholesterol/low fat diet: Cholesterol is the original building block for ALL your hormones, including thyroid hormone. We We need cholesterol to make pregnenolone (often referred to as the Mother of all Hormones), and then that goes on to make progesterone.
Low body fat, eating disorder, calorie restriction, over-exercise
Hypothyroidism
PCOS
High prolactin levels
Estrogen dominance: Either you’re making too much estrogen, exposed to too much estrogen through diet or environment, or your estrogen is out of balance with progesterone
LOW ESTROGEN
“Estrogen” is the name of a class of hormones including E1 (estrone), E2 (estradiol) and E3 (estriol). Like progesterone, estrogen is made primarily in the ovaries pre-menopause and in the adrenals post-menopause. Estrogen is a BUILD hormone - it stimulates the growth and maturation of reproductive organs and breasts, promotes vaginal mucosal thickness, as well as skin hydration.\
SYMPTOMS OF LOW ESTROGEN
Yeast infections, recurring UTIs, vaginal dryness, painful intercourse (these things would make someone less likely to want to have sex)
Low libido
Hot flashes
Night sweats
Insomnia
Mental fogginess
Memory lapse
Headaches
Depression
Heart palpitations
Dry skin
Bone loss
CAUSES OF LOW ESTROGEN
Peri-menopause, menopause
Chronic stress, HPA axis dysfunction
Low cholesterol, low fat diet
Low body fat
Nutrient deficiencies
Food sensitivities
Childbirth
Breastfeeding
Hormonal contraceptive
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LOW TESTOSTERONE
We think about this as the “male hormone’ but ladies make it and need it, too. (For example, we need healthy testosterone levels to be receptive to sexual advances from our partner.)
While men make it in the testes, we make it in the ovaries, and a little bit in the adrenal glands. About 50% comes from the conversion of androgens, including DHEA.
Therefore, DHEA deficiency can also contribute to low testosterone. DHEA is a stress hormone and it can be low with chronic stress and adrenal fatigue.
DHEA naturally declines with age, but chronic stress will prematurely decline DHEA levels.
SYMPTOMS OF LOW TESTOSTERONE
Low libido
Fatigue
Vaginal dryness
Worry/anxiety/fear
Aches/pains
Foggy thinking
Memory issues
Low muscle mass
Weight gain
Wrinkled skin
Sagging cheeks
Thin lips
CAUSES OF LOW TESTOSTERONE
Low cholesterol, low fat diet
Low body fat, ED, calorie restriction, over-exercise
Chronic stress, HPA axis dysfunction
Nutrient deficiencies
Poor diet
Blood sugar dysregulation
Trans fats, soy, alcohol, refined sugar - all linked to low T
Smoking weed—low T
Obesity: our adipose tissue/fat cells can convert T into E through aromatization
Excess estrogen
Mold & biotoxins
Oxidative stress (heavy metals, infections)
Hypothyroid
Certain medications—corticosteroids, statins, opioids, beta-blockers, SSRIs, BC
HOW CAN YOU BALANCE YOUR HORMONES?
EAT A NUTRIENT DENSE DIET
BALANCE YOUR BLOOD SUGAR
FIND WAYS TO MANAGE YOUR STRESS
SUPPORT YOUR LIVER’S PHASE 1 & PHASE 2 DETOXIFICATION PATHWAYS
